It’s really amazing how big supertankers are. The largest one, the Seawise Giant, was 460 meters long (over ¼ mile) and fully loaded weighed over 560,000 metric tons. That’s a lot of ship.
These ships don't go super fast, but once they get up to speed, they don't stop or turn easily. Depending on a ship’s size, speed, weight and load, it can take a few kilometers for one of them to stop or reverse course. Of course, considering the amount of momentum they have, that’s no surprise. On top of that, when they turn, it can take over an hour. That’s a bit slower than a sports car.
Our lives are like a supertanker at full speed. We set a course in our 20s and for the most part stay on that trajectory. We more or less stay the same weight; have about the same amount of money/income, similar types of jobs, and the same sorts of relationships. We might stray from our norms sometimes, but usually find ourselves back on track – whether we like it or not – soon enough.
Of course, if we are satisfied there is no reason to change. However, as I said in my last post, if we decide to make a change, one of the best ways is to connect with a guide we can trust. Conversely, trying to charter a new course and failing can be because we don't have a guide we connect with. This is still true.
The other way we usually fail to change course is if we give up too soon.
When we realize our ship has gone off course, one common reaction is a bit of a freak out – a frantic need to get back on track as soon as possible: “I don't like the way things are going. I have to fix everything, NOW!”
Of course, it’s a positive thing to make changes when life is going the wrong way. The thing is that, just as it takes time to change a supertanker’s course, it takes time for us to go outside of our current course. Though we might want to fix everything overnight, trying to do so can cause unnecessary stress and disappointment – especially if things don’t change right away.
When I have a new client, I ask them to pre-pay for 7 weekly or bi-weekly sessions. This is important because by pre-paying they are committing themselves to achieving their goals and, more importantly, they are sending their subconscious a message: “This is what we are going to do. I expect you to get on board with it.” By committing financially, the subconscious mind knows that we are serious and it will work with, instead of against us. Likewise, because it is a set number of sessions, the subconscious feels a bit of pressure to meet the “deadline” we have created.
This, then, is the magic combination for success: a guide we connect with, good techniques, and our commitment to put in the time. Sure, I’ve had clients get incredible changes after only 1 or 2 meetings but they are the exception rather than the rule. Most of my clients need a bit more of a commitment to work on the various aspects of their goal. By doing so, they can get long-term, satisfying results.
So, when you decide to permanently lose weight/get fit, start that company you’ve always dreamed of or to break and into a better wealth zone, remember to commit some time and money. Make this investment in yourself and I am sure you will get a great return.
Here’s the bad news: your ship would rather crash into an iceberg than change course. Tune in next time to find out how your subconscious keeps you stuck on the course you are going and what you can do about it.