Have you ever told a friend or family member about something you wanted to achieve? How did it go? Did they give you encouragement or advice? I hope they didn't say: “That’s impossible! You can’t do that.”
Whether they are supportive or discouraging, others often share advice. Sometimes it’s useful and sometimes it isn’t; but in the end, whether we listen to it or not is up to us. This is the way most of us work to improve our lives: gather information, evaluate effectiveness and implement the best plan.
The problem is that it doesn't usually go so smoothly.
Let’s say you decide to lose weight and read an article where an expert tells you to give up your morning donut and vanilla latte. Sounds reasonable, right? There are lots of calories in that combo and taking that off your plate will really help. The problem is that you LOVE your vanilla latte and donut. It makes your mornings bearable.
Do you think you are going to follow this expert’s advice? My guess is that most of us would valiantly try only to abandon it as soon as we had “bad” morning and “needed” our treat again. I know I would.
This is also the way most therapists, coaches and consultants work. They use suggestions as a way to induce change. It goes something like this: you have a goal and doing X, Y and Z will get you there. They provide you with reasonable and rational suggestions to move you forward and it is your job to implement them.
The problem is that very little of our decision-making is rational. Most of our decisions are irrational and subconscious. You might be getting great suggestions, but most of them will be difficult to implement unless your irrational mind agrees. Rationally, it’s a no-brainer that giving up so many calories will help you lose weight, but your irrational mind – which is like a child – doesn't care: it wants what it wants and it wants it now. It takes a LOT of mental discipline to make the irrational mind do something it doesn’t want.
Think of it like an iceberg. What is the best way to move one? Considering that 90% of an iceberg is underwater, pushing the above-water part might get some movement, but mostly it will just rotate the iceberg around in the same spot. Pushing the underwater part, however, moves the top as well.
We are like that iceberg. Our rational mind is the small part above the water and the rest is our subconscious. It’s easy to rationally decide something, but it takes a lot of work get anywhere with it. Move your subconscious, however, and your conscious experience effortlessly goes with it.
This is where I do my work: on the level of the irrational, or subconscious mind. To achieve their goals, I do my best not to tell clients what to do or how to do it. Instead, I help them work with their subconscious mind to propel them in the direction they desire.
Working with me, clients come up with their own ideas, perspectives and excitement of how and what to do to get where they want to go. This really makes a difference because what they decide comes from that irrational mind and, like I said before, when the irrational mind wants something, it’s hard to stop.
Would you be able to do that thing you’ve always dreamed about if it felt fun instead of scary? How would your company function if your staff loved coming to work? Could you lose weight if a salad sounded more satisfying than the vanilla latte and donut? You can push to make these things happen, but it’s much easier if your subconscious helps.
This is what I do: I provide an experience that allows clients to coordinate their conscious and subconscious goals. Whether it is losing weight, getting fit, finding that dream job or reorganizing a company; getting the subconscious mind on board makes it much easier to achieve your dreams.
So, how do I accomplish this? What do I do to get the subconscious working with you? Next time I will explain it using sumo, roller derby and curling.